Psychic Love Advice (46)
'Relationships were never meant to be easy' i have heard said before, but sometimes they can feel downright impossible. Unfortunately, while school may have taught us the name of the important historical figures or the world largest rivers, most of us have never been taught how to deal with the emotional challenges that a relationship presents. If we are not careful we simply tend to repeat the patterns of our parent's relationships, for good or bad.
Origin Psychics have worked to support clients in developing more successful and meaningful relationship for many years now. Our wisdom comes through helping clients to learn both to trust their intiutions in relationships and also to uncover deeper patterns and habits that might be blocking us from creating the kind of relationship you really want.
Our belief at Origin Psychics is that the need for fulfilling and meaningful relationships is one of the most basic requirements for human happiness. Our relationship advice articles offer real life, practical approaches on how to deal with some of the most common issues and problems that our clients ring us about everyday.
THERE’S SO MUCH MATERIAL AVAILABLE TODAY ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW TO MAKE THEM WORK. YET MANY MEN STILL HAVE DIFFICULTY WITH EMOTIONAL INTIMACY. ORIGIN PSYCHIC MANISHA GODBOLE PROFILES THESE MEN...
What is it that drives some men into such a state of panic that, when you use the words ‘commitment’, ‘love’ or ‘my needs’ they look as though they’ve seen a ghost and been hit by a bus at the same time? Whichever way you look at it, it’s not a good look!
One of the benefits of the work I do with so many amazing people is that I get to see the world through others' eyes. And with that, there are always fresh new insights. One such insight has really struck me in the last few weeks, and it's particularly potent, given the name of this magazine.
It seems to me that human beings often make connections really effortlessly! You could almost say that it's hard-wired into us. In fact, biologically speaking, we must interact and connect as we breathe, eat and drink. Every moment of our lives occurs through this extraordinary web of fluid interactions. One of the consistent threads in the great wisdom traditions is the knowledge of the oneness which exists through all reality. Any wonder then that forming connections happens so readily.
Natalie Arkins - Senior Origin Psychic
‘Natalie is terrific! I find her readings to be uplifting and very straight to the point. She possesses a great sense of humor; she has helped me out in numerous ways... Her readings are more than just a way to look what's ahead. They are a unique way to gain a different perspective on what is going in my life.‘ JB. New York
Even though each person's individual circumstances are unique, there are some very common threads which we encounter in our love lives. Here are some questions you may well identify with....
Knowing when to let go...
One of the most difficult things we all have to face from time to time is the decision to let go of a broken relationship. The aftermath of an unresolved relationship break-up is comparable to jumping head first into a wild, raging ocean. Being thrust into the depths of unresolved feelings, you can find yourself lost trying to understand what has happened, what is truth, and what is illusion and simply hurt feelings. The fear of the unknown can make even the most confident person hesitate with indecision.
Taking a risk in love can be one of the most nerve-wracking experiences, but also one of the most exciting! How do you see yourself when it comes to opening your heart???
It takes great courage to enter into a new relationship. And the ebb and flow of even well established relationships obviously requires a certain willingness to take risks. Naturally, nobody actually wants to be hurt. But the reality is that most of us over the age of about sixteen will have experienced the pain inherent in relationships to some degree or another.
Are you someone who prefers to 'dive in'? Or are you someone who takes their time, looking for sign after sign that the object of your affection is being genuine with you? The truth is that there is no way to avoid risk if you want to have relationships of any kind, but especially so if you want to have a loving relationship. The pathway to intimacy demands risk, whether we like it or not.
Everyone wants to be happy in love! But when it comes to creating successful relationships, we often look at the face of life and only see what lies on the surface. We can become lost in reacting to one another and lose sight of the deeper interactions going on between people.
Try this quiz, to uncover what the 'real issues' may be that are creating tension in your relationship...
Yes, it's very obvious that this edition of Connections is well and truly focused on Valentine's Day. At Origin Psychics, we're committed to genuinely helping people to grow and heal and empower themselves to be fulfilled in life. Obviously, relationships are an integral part of that. And this month, we have a relationship focus in our Horoscopes, our Tarot, and a Valentine's quiz for you to do. We also have something special from our reader Manisha, about the amazing celebration that is 'One Billion Rising'.
As a psychiatrist, I've seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Why? Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate. Studies suggest that the brain in this phase is much like a brain on drugs. MRI scans illustrate that the same area lights up when an addict gets a fix of cocaine as when a person is experiencing the intense lust of physical attraction. Also in the early stage of a relationship, when the sex hormones are raging, lust is fueled by idealization and projection--you see what you hope someone will be or need them to be--rather than seeing the real person, flaws and all.
I almost called this article ‘The Language of Love’, but this phrase is capable of conjuring up all sorts of images, most of which would be very romantic, and in a way, that’s the point of this article. Echos of ‘Let me compare thee to a summer’s day…’ If there’s one aspect of relationship which comes up in readings more than anything else, it’s questions about communication – lack of it, changes in it, contradictions in it, timing of it, and most of all, the meaning of it. The language of love isn’t as simple as it once seems to have been.
In a recent article in the Journal of the American Medical Association (August 15, vol. 308), by Monson et al, trials were run on how Couples Therapy could help patients with PTSD. PTSD, or 'Post Traumatic Stress Discorder' is caused by traumatic experiences, and can include combat, sexual and physical assaults, car accidents and natural disasters. People with PTSD can be withdrawn, numb, angry, exhibit avoidance behavior, be irritable and they can have serious problems maintaining personal relationships. Previous research has shown that one-on-one therapy does not always help with relieving these sometimes intense symptoms.
Thanks to the Bridget Jones phenomenon, we have the terms Singletons and Smug-Marrieds. It seems whichever one we are, there are problems and benefits. When you are married or in a relationship, you can worry about relationship breakdowns, infidelity, arguments - any issue is doubled when two people are involved and their energies are interacting.
An image came to me 'loud and clear' today - an image not unlike 'The Tower' archetype in the Tarot. Paradoxically, it came while I was enjoying a quiet cup of tea in the sunshine! For anyone with even the most casual acquaintance with tarot cards, you'll understand the irony. The Tower archetype usually expresses anything BUT peace and quiet and sunshine! It's usually an image of destruction - of the tower being hit by lightening, perhaps fire - sometimes the image is verging on violent carnage! But one thing is also always present in the Tower card - look at the bottom of the tower and you'll see something solid remaining.
Safety is one of the basic rights we often take for granted in modern, western society. If someone asked you what was wrong, you would rarely think, "I don't feel safe". Yet more and more I am finding that a lack of safety is lurking behind a lot of common feelings clients share in their readings.
Rosalie was by all accounts a very strong and empowered woman. She had left an abusive marriage early on in her life and gone on to educate herself in Psychology and work as a social worker, helping people who, like herself, were struggling in difficult circumstances. However a theme seemed to emerge in our readings where Rosalie would doubt everything she had built in her life. She had formed a relationship with Cliff which was progressing in a healthy way, she was being recognized in her work and more and more opportunities were coming her way. Actually her life was great and all her dreams had come true.
Many clients have called me in a state of frustration about their relationship - they feel discontent with their relationship, but not necessarily unhappy. But most of all, they feel quite powerless to effectively change matters - to communicate their discontent to their partner in a way which is heard. The following is an email I received from a client of mine, and my response to her questions. (The names have been changed to respect her privacy.)
I frankly feel a bit ungrateful writing to you about my relationship... I tell myself I should be content – I have a relationship now with a lovely man, who regularly tells me he loves me. We've been together for over year, and when we spend time together, we get on really well. It is such an improvement on my marriage, I can't tell you! That was quite dis-functional, and it took me some time to overcome my depression after I left him.
But I'm afraid I'm not happy. I can't talk to my friends about it – they all think I'm so fortunate to have found such a lovely new partner. I do love him, and I know that he loves me. I'm not even sure why I'm not happy. I certainly don't want to move in with him. Nor do I even want to think about another marriage. Should I step back from this relationship? Will it develop or just drift along like this? Can you help me?
It was in early spring when Janet felt something was wrong. It was difficult to put her finger on it. It was an indescribable, almost physical sensation - A pit of anxiety in her belly. - A deep sense of foreboding. On the surface everything was fine. Her relationship with her Husband Mike seemed fine. The kids were doing OK at school. Yet, the feeling just wouldn't shake itself off. Was she just a bit worn out? Perhaps, she just needed a break?