To a certain extent we all play games in our relationships. Any person who harbors at least a little bit of fear, insecurity or distrust will play them at some point.
4 ways to tell a relationship game player
Relationships are always a major drama
Game players thrive on drama. In fact, they cant live without it. The reason for this is that game players lack the confidence to create feelings of intimacy based on healthy patterns of communication and trust. Game players don't believe that 'who they really are' will keep someone interested – so they play games to keep the interest alive. Game players live in their head working out how to control the relationship to make sure they stay in charge. In most cases, game players have been brought up by parents who have been distant and uninterested, and as children, they have not been taught how to love unconditionally.
Game players never trust
If you are in a relationship with someone who constantly complains that they have been 'betrayed or lied to in the past' this may be a sign of a game player. If you find yourself feeling constantly under the microscope for misdeeds or lies you haven't even done, or a harmless white lie you have said, then this may be another sign. Ironically, because game players themselves lie and deceive, they project their own lack of trust worthiness into the other person. They are paranoid of being outplayed. In the end, you must remember, game players only play to win. I have seen many times, in my years as a psychic, where one day a game player is crying and desperately telling someone how much they love and need them, and then the moment they feel the other person needs them more, they proceed to drop a bombshell and walk away without any feeling what so ever.
You start loosing confidence in yourself
As mentioned earlier, game players are deeply insecure. Part of the power of a game player lies in their capacity to plant seeds of emotional doubt in the other person. With a game player you never quite know where you stand. Are they in a bad mood or they just being quiet? He says he is a good mood because of something that happened at work, but has he met someone else? This situation can feel like a total head-trip and you start to wonder, am I the one with an emotional problem? Am I really the one who is insecure?
Game players makes you feel emotionally drained
Considering all the drama, distrust and head-trips of being in a relationship with a game player it is natural to end up feeling emotionally drained. You may notice that other things in your life, like work, family and friends, have ended up being neglected. In fact you may have even lost a few friends along the way.
Conclusion
I hope I haven't made game players look like evil incarnate. That wasn't my intention. Moreover, there are not just two types of people in the world – game players and non-game players. We all sit somewhere on the spectrum. If you found you identified with certain qualities of a game player I mentioned then don't be alarmed. However, it should be a warning to look at yourself more deeply and see where game playing will lead for both you and the other person. In the end the real problem with game playing is that no one really wins!
