There are many references to how, in order to truly understand someone else, we must put ourselves 'in their shoes'. Shoes are personal things. Those that fit one person's feet might not fit someone else's. Then there's personal preference in terms of style. Ah, but that's not what the saying asks of us. It asks that we try to connect with something personal to someone else in order to see a situation from their perspective. That's precisely what you need to do now.