One of the best Christmas presents I could ask for this Christmas isn’t a new Ipad or the latest Gucci bag. Certainly these things could give me a certain amount of instant gratification and perhaps even some style! But no product or item, no matter how expensive or nifty, can ever measure up to the priceless nature of having healthy and loving relationships. Memories of cool clothes and gifts fade, but can you ever forget that Christmas where the family had a huge fight, or the first Christmas without a cherished loved one, after they passed away.
Love throughout the ages and in modern history has been romanticized, there’s no doubt about it. Even though love has a universal meaning, the concept of love between romantic partners takes on a whole new perspective. Love occurs when two people connect in mind, body, and soul and develop the desire to form a bond. Bonds can be developed between friends and family, and with, and between, animals. Love is something we all know exists, because we feel it for our families and friends and yes, even our pets. But for love to be maintained between two entities over a period of time, certain elements must be contributed by those who participate in the act of love.
Try this mini-ritual if you're looking for support in your love life.
Gather your materials together, and then take a few moments to be still and quieten your mind, before you begin your ritual.
* A small bowl of water - the chalice of your deepest feelings
* A specially chosen crystal - the condensed earth, polished with light
* Some petals of your favourite flower, or even simply your favourite colour, or a few drops of some essential oil - the memory of beautiful times yet to come.
* A candle, either white or a light colour - the fire of your deepest heart
Place your crystal and the flower petals or oil into the water, and place the bowl near a window. This ritual is best performed at night, so place your chalice where the moon can be seen if possible. Light your candle and place it near your chalice. Close your eyes, let your breathing slow down, quieten your mind, and then open your eyes again, and focus your attention on your chalice. When you are ready, name your heart's deepest desire - this can be in your mind or out aloud.
You are bringing together the most beautiful elements, and then adding the vibration of your own heart's voice.
Take a few minutes simply to be relaxed and peaceful, and know that your heart is a very powerful creative force. When you are ready, bring your attention back to the room, and snuff out the candle.
This month, popular Origin Psychic Amy Adams answers one of those questions which comes up so frequently in our clients’ readings here at Origin Psychics...
Who would have thought that a simple phone call should mean so much. This amazing piece of modern technology which allows us to communicate over great distance can also be the centre point of a romantic crisis. Are you waiting to hear back from him after your first date? Have you had a break with your boyfriend and he promised he would call in a couple of weeks? Does your partner disappear off the planet and then call out of the blue?
Do we expect too much from our relationships? Can we possibly live up to our own expectations? Can our partners hope to live up to them either? Even a short browse on any one of the most popular and successful internet dating sites reveals a treasure trove of data! Here we see example after example of relationship expectations, articulated in something like abullet point presentation, not unlike a recipe book! You can specify your desires for height, marital status, hobbies, age - even hair colour.
Problems with communication are without doubt one of the most common relationship difficulties we work with here in our readings at Origin Psychics. Try our quick and simple quiz to get more of a handle on what type of communicator you tend to be. Read your category on the next page...
When your partner says they are going to call, and then they dont, do you:
a) Get irritated with them and call them instead? (2)
b) Get on with your day, assuming there must be some reason? (4)
c) Deliberately not answer their next call, in a self-righteous mood? (1)
d) Spend your day worrying about why they havent called you? (3)
Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff's New York Times Bestseller, "Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life" (Three Rivers Press, 2011)
In "Emotional Freedom" I describe emotional empaths as a species unto themselves. Whereas others may thrive on the togetherness of being a couple, for empaths like me, too much togetherness can be difficult, may cause us to bolt. Why? We tend to intuit and absorb our partner's energy, and become overloaded, anxious, or exhausted when we don't have time to decompress in our own space. We're super-responders; our sensory experience of relationship is the equivalent of feeling objects with 50 fingers instead of five.
There's so much material today about relationships and how to make them work. Yet many men still have difficulty with emotional intimacy. Origin Psychic, Manisha Godbole, profiles these men...
What is it that drives some men into such a state of panic that, when you use the wordscommitment',love' ormy needs' they look as though they've seen a ghost and been hit by a bus at the same time? Whichever way you look at it, it's not a good look!
I've just met someone new and we've been seeing each other several times a week. Things were going really well, and suddenly he seems to have gone cold. Did I mis-read the signals?'
Though communicating feelings can be a bit of a minefield, it's not usually the case that the signs of attraction are that obscure. More often than not, one or other half of the relationship starts to realize their growing emotional involvement, and therein develops a case of cold feet. This can be very confusing, and even quite painful, if you're the one on the receiving end of that detachment.