According to research, our ability connect with others (our attachment style) is often defined by our childhood experiences. A recent study(Prior and Glasser) suggests that 65% of people have a secure attachment style, while the remaining 35% have an insecure attachment style. Insecure attachment can lead to a wide range of challenging emotional responses, including obsession, jealousy and other emotional ups and downs. Fortunately, this insecure attachment style can be changed through developing a deeper sense of friendship.
Take time to do more things you both enjoy doing rather than focussing on resolving feelings of anxiety and insecurity. Spend at least 10 minutes each day asking about your partners life - their stressors, new friends, interests etc. Learn to recognise, listen and relate to your partners life outside the boundaries of your own relationship.
Leo in love, now that is quite an interesting issue to consider, seeing that the Leo individual never does or feels anything halfway in their life! Well it’s the same when it comes to love. The Leo person is basically very passionate and steadfast about their feelings. And without a doubt they will always be that way about life, and especially in the area of love and romance. They are as a rule very loyal in their love relationships and also can be very compassionate. When a Leo falls in love, he or she falls very hard and often, very quickly. Leos are full of zest and vitality when it comes to love, sex and relationships, and for this reason they give a lot - be warned though because they usually expect a lot in return.
One of the best Christmas presents I could ask for this Christmas isn’t a new Ipad or the latest Gucci bag. Certainly these things could give me a certain amount of instant gratification and perhaps even some style! But no product or item, no matter how expensive or nifty, can ever measure up to the priceless nature of having healthy and loving relationships. Memories of cool clothes and gifts fade, but can you ever forget that Christmas where the family had a huge fight, or the first Christmas without a cherished loved one, after they passed away.
Love throughout the ages and in modern history has been romanticized, there’s no doubt about it. Even though love has a universal meaning, the concept of love between romantic partners takes on a whole new perspective. Love occurs when two people connect in mind, body, and soul and develop the desire to form a bond. Bonds can be developed between friends and family, and with, and between, animals. Love is something we all know exists, because we feel it for our families and friends and yes, even our pets. But for love to be maintained between two entities over a period of time, certain elements must be contributed by those who participate in the act of love.
Try this mini-ritual if you're looking for support in your love life.
Gather your materials together, and then take a few moments to be still and quieten your mind, before you begin your ritual.
* A small bowl of water - the chalice of your deepest feelings
* A specially chosen crystal - the condensed earth, polished with light
* Some petals of your favourite flower, or even simply your favourite colour, or a few drops of some essential oil - the memory of beautiful times yet to come.
* A candle, either white or a light colour - the fire of your deepest heart
Place your crystal and the flower petals or oil into the water, and place the bowl near a window. This ritual is best performed at night, so place your chalice where the moon can be seen if possible. Light your candle and place it near your chalice. Close your eyes, let your breathing slow down, quieten your mind, and then open your eyes again, and focus your attention on your chalice. When you are ready, name your heart's deepest desire - this can be in your mind or out aloud.
You are bringing together the most beautiful elements, and then adding the vibration of your own heart's voice.
Take a few minutes simply to be relaxed and peaceful, and know that your heart is a very powerful creative force. When you are ready, bring your attention back to the room, and snuff out the candle.
This month, popular Origin Psychic Amy Adams answers one of those questions which comes up so frequently in our clients’ readings here at Origin Psychics...
Who would have thought that a simple phone call should mean so much. This amazing piece of modern technology which allows us to communicate over great distance can also be the centre point of a romantic crisis. Are you waiting to hear back from him after your first date? Have you had a break with your boyfriend and he promised he would call in a couple of weeks? Does your partner disappear off the planet and then call out of the blue?
Do we expect too much from our relationships? Can we possibly live up to our own expectations? Can our partners hope to live up to them either? Even a short browse on any one of the most popular and successful internet dating sites reveals a treasure trove of data! Here we see example after example of relationship expectations, articulated in something like abullet point presentation, not unlike a recipe book! You can specify your desires for height, marital status, hobbies, age - even hair colour.
Problems with communication are without doubt one of the most common relationship difficulties we work with here in our readings at Origin Psychics. Try our quick and simple quiz to get more of a handle on what type of communicator you tend to be. Read your category on the next page...
When your partner says they are going to call, and then they dont, do you:
a) Get irritated with them and call them instead? (2)
b) Get on with your day, assuming there must be some reason? (4)
c) Deliberately not answer their next call, in a self-righteous mood? (1)
d) Spend your day worrying about why they havent called you? (3)
Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff's New York Times Bestseller, "Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life" (Three Rivers Press, 2011)
In "Emotional Freedom" I describe emotional empaths as a species unto themselves. Whereas others may thrive on the togetherness of being a couple, for empaths like me, too much togetherness can be difficult, may cause us to bolt. Why? We tend to intuit and absorb our partner's energy, and become overloaded, anxious, or exhausted when we don't have time to decompress in our own space. We're super-responders; our sensory experience of relationship is the equivalent of feeling objects with 50 fingers instead of five.