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Is He Afraid Of Emotional Intimacy?

There’s so much material today about relationships and how to make them work. Yet many men still have difficulty with emotional intimacy. Origin Psychic, Manisha Godbole, profiles these men… What is it that drives some men into such a state of panic that when you use the words commitment, love or my needs they look

Love Life Faqs

I’ve just met someone new and we’ve been seeing each other several times a week. Things were going really well, and suddenly he seems to have gone cold. Did I misread the signals? Yes Though communicating feelings can be a bit of a minefield, it’s not usually the case that the signs of attraction are

Are You The Tortoise Or Hare In Love?

Taking a risk in love can be one of the most nerve-wracking experiences, but also one of the most exciting! How do you see yourself when it comes to opening your heart? It takes great courage to enter into a new relationship. And the ebb and flow of even well established relationships obviously requires a

Valentine’s Day Quiz For Lovers

Everyone wants to be happy in love! But when it comes to creating successful relationships, we often look at the face of life and only see what lies on the surface. We can become lost in reacting to one another and lose sight of the deeper interactions going on between people. Try this quiz, to

How To Tell The Difference Between Lust And Love

As a psychiatrist, I’ve seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Why? Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate. Studies suggest that the brain in this phase is much like a brain on drugs. MRI scans illustrate

Couples Therapy Can Help Patients With Ptsd

In a recent article in the Journal of the American Medical Association (August 15, vol. 308), by Monson et al, trials were run on how Couples Therapy could help patients with PTSD. PTSD, or ‘Post Traumatic Stress Disorder’ is caused by traumatic experiences, and can include combat, sexual and physical assaults, car accidents and natural

Are You A Singleton, Or A Smug-married?

Thanks to the Bridget Jones phenomenon, we have the terms ‘Singletons’ and ‘Smug-Married’s. It seems whichever one we are, there are problems and benefits. When you are married or in a relationship, you can worry about relationship breakdowns, infidelity, arguments – any issue is doubled when two people are involved and their energies are interacting.

Truth Or Dare Relationship Game Players: Are You One?

To a certain extent we all play games in our relationships. Any person who harbours at least a little bit of fear, insecurity or distrust will play them at some point. However, in my readings I have often encountered people who are in relationships with, or are themselves, professional game players. Often these people can

Finding Your Emotional Voice

One of the most common challenges we face in our relationships is around communication, or the lack of it. This month Sheila Jones shares a case study of just such a situation… Sue was a client of mine who had a real challenge in her marriage, all centred on a very difficult pattern of communication.