It is strange how Christmas can really highlight how alone you feel. Even when surrounded by family or great nights out with friends, we can still feel pangs of a deep sadness from an unmet need. There are many reasons for this, beginning with our family of origin and extending out into the society in which we live today. Yet blaming our society or our parents does not help to shift the feeling that can grow into a strong feeling of depression or obsessive fixation on someone who will make the difference.
One of the most common challenges we face in our relationships is around communication, or the lack of it. This month, Sheila Jones shares a ‘case study’ of just such a situation...
Sue was a client of mine who had a real challenge in her marriage, all centering on a very difficult pattern of communication. She and her husband Mike had been together for almost fifteen years, married for five. When she first called me, Sue was feeling that Mike had become very distant to her, and that he would never be open about what was wrong, just saying that everything was fine. He blew hot and cold all the time and Sue was feeling rather unloved and lonely.
We’re right on top of the Year of the Dragon, and it’s time to hold on tight. Yes the more comfortable pace of the Rabbit year is now behind us. 2012 could be seen as the year of EMPOWERMENT! It’s time for us all to re-examine our paradigms, old beliefs and attitudes, and to let go of anything which doesn’t suit any longer. ‘To thine own self be true’ in all ways this year. There are going to be many opportunities for us – it’s time to grab them and take a few calculated risks, if you want to make the most of the Dragon energy all around…
To a certain extent we all play games in our relationships. Any person who harbors at least a little bit of fear, insecurity or distrust will play them at some point.
However, in my readings I have often encountered people who are in relationships with, or are themselves, professional game players. Often these people can no longer see the line between the game and the reality. They have worn so many masks, that they no longer remember what their real face looks like. From a relationship perspective, these people are quite dangerous, or if you are one, you are in danger of having a life of destructive relationships.
