Psychic readings are all about questions. There’s the more obvious ones, such as ‘Is he THE ONE’, ‘is my partner having an affair?’, ‘Does he still love me?’ etc. Then there are the not-so-obvious ones, such as ‘What’s my life purpose?’, ‘Do I have what it takes to succeed in my own business?’, ‘Why do I feel so comfortable in a place I’ve only just moved to?’ etc.
There are so many choices in our modern day lives, that we can easily feel over-whelmed. But what’s really apparent in talking to so many people going through a difficult or painful time in their lives, is that actually making those choices becomes incredibly stressful, so much so, that we can begin to think that we don’t actually have choices. At the very least, we lose our bearings, begin to doubt ourselves and those we love, and of course, lose confidence in our ability to discern what’s best for us in the long run.
Quite naturally, we turn to others – our family and friends, our loved ones, and obviously from my point of view, trusted advisors such as a counsellor, spiritual mentor, or a psychic.
What should I do?
I’m asked that question so often, and it’s a perfectly natural way for any of us to feel? Which way should I turn? Should I wait for my lover to sort themselves out? Should I wait for him or her to leave their husband, wife, partner, lover…..? Should I leave my job now or wait?
And it’s not just ourselves who ask ‘Should I’. ‘You SHOULD this….. You SHOULD that…..’ When we’re talking to loved ones, we can be on the receiving end of so many, sometimes contradictory pieces of advice, that it’s no wonder we become fearful and seized up with an excruciating sense of inertia.
THE TYRANNY OF THE SHOULDS! That’s what I call it. A good friend of mine used that phrase a long time ago, and it so aptly summed up the experience that that phrase has stayed with me ever since. We can be our own internal tyrant at times, bossing ourselves around, in a desperate attempt to get beyond the pain and difficulty of our circumstances. But the really damaging part of this particular tyrannical rant is that that one little word is absolutely loaded with judgement and false authority. And it blocks out any hope we may have of hearing the quiet voice of wisdom we all have within.
So watch out for that potent little word – catch it in a sturdy little butterfly net in your mind. If well meaning friends offer you advice when really all you want is for them to listen to you, start by telling them directly that you’re not really looking for advice, just space. If those persistent ‘should’ keep creeping into your conversations and private thought processes, see if you can weed them out slowly but surely. In the end, life really isn’t about right or wrong choices – just choices, and then working with what manifests as a result of those choices.